This blog is sometimes a place for me to let it out when I'm not happy with certain things and as for this issue, its not the first time.
I remember last time it was fine. But now that I've grown up and he is getting a bit older, things have changed. In a bad way.
We can have arguments every single day. There are lots and lots of things we disagree mainly how each other thinks. I don't know where it all started to go wrong.
As far as I want to listen to my own biological father who brought me up, he lost the credibility in me.I heard about a few complains about me raising my voice over petty issues and being rebellious. Yes, he is my dad and he forever will but these wrong actions reflect just how frustrated I am at times.
I'm not just frustrated about what happens outside but also towards him. Talking to him is like talking to a deaf man. And when I point out where he is doing things wrongly he does the same thing back to me. He will mention about me failing exam and stuff.
And to make matters worse, when he started finding fault first, I'll do the same back to him. Things can get ugly. One father and son conversation could turn into some kind of EPL derby.
We take turns to point finger at each other so often it almost defined the word 'counter-attack'.Some have told to be have patience when dealing with an elder person but I really don't know how to do so.
I hate to make my parents upset. I really don't like any bit of it. What goes around comes around. I thought about it and I don't want my children to be doing this to me next time.
Seriously, I don't see an end to this issue as for now. Because I really don't know how to solve this. I am trying to control my emotions and I think I managed to do that but its not enough. I even had thoughts about moving out.
HELP?
2 comments:
There is solution. U struggled because u did not solve ur problem in a mature way. Every time before u start the'counter-attack', ask urself one question: DO YOU LOVE HIM? If ur answer is a yes then the problem is solved! Just let him throw his words on u. I believe he have the right to do that instead of u. Learn to be polite to elder. No matter what, just TAHAN! This is love..
well... as a hot tempered person, i do believe temper is something that is very hard to control. or perhaps, its something that cant control at times. (cos we r still young nyway)its just like a drunk person, wont realize he is drunk.
but when u wake up, try to think back what have happened. does it help? does a counter attack help u? any benefits of fighting back? winning him in words gets u anything? u rather win him by words n losing d LOVE n d BOND between u n him? when u win(gain) something, u will lose something.
my theorem of life, "People come and go". they will only leave prints in our heart. we have no choice to be born to this world, but we have d options for our days. "Live life with no regrets", u will nvr know what will happen in next second.
moving out is a good option if u wanna be independent. but it wont help u in any other things perhaps. spending rental? far from ur loved one? staying with strangers? eating hawker food? spending all d time alone?
Try to be in his shoe, dis is d best way when u r in conflict. Does he wanna fight his son? Does he have a good sleep on d night he fight with u? how his wife will feel seeing both her beloved son n husband fighting?
i yearn to go home, but i have to stay here until everything is done. i too wanna earn big money later outside dis nation, but i promise myself i will stay at home for my folks, unless they willing to move along with me. cos i dono hw much time i have for them, i dono how much time they willing to spend with me sumore. maybe im slightly -ve thinking.
Clock keeps ticking, people keep changing. What u r thinking now, may not be what u actually wan d next moment. What he shout at u now, doesnt mean he still mean it at d next moment. some people just act faster than their minds.
There wont be a normal parent on earth wan any tragedy to happen to their children. unless....? think wisely..(=
i don read blogs very often. but if u think my words help, i can always try my best to.
cherish~
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